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In order to determine whether a person is being untruthful, we need to look and listen for the first deceptive behavior to occur within the first five seconds after the stimulus is delivered.
At any given moment in time, as human beings we tend to be either visually dominant or auditory dominant — we’re either more aware of and processing what we’re seeing, or more aware of and processing what we’re hearing. The problem with that goes back to what we said about communication being both verbal and nonverbal in nature, which means that deceptive behavior can come in either or both forms
The trick is to train our brains to go into what we call “L-squared mode” - we have to tell it to look and listen simultaneously.
This in fact is quite difficult for the brain to do and after a while, it will default to one or the other. It’s important to train it to process both especially within the first five seconds of delivering the stimulus (a question) and perceiving the answer
The idea here is that if you want to know if someone is lying, you need to ignore truthful behavior so that it’s not processed.
Oftentimes, people will provide “truthful statements” to suppress answering the directed question since they don’t want to put themselves in an uncomfortable spot.
All the lies that have ever been told or ever will be told fall into three categories, or strategies: lies of commission, lies of omission, and lies of influence.
The oath that is used when a witness is sworn to testify covers all three forms of these lies.