There are three categories to friendship: pleasure, utility, and virtue. Sometimes, you haven't become friends with someone because you haven't asked them / talked to them about the right topics.
Thoughts
If you search hard enough, more often than not, people have more in common with each other than you think. The bottleneck is how long are you willing to spend to find that spark.
Notes
The three categories of friendships:
Pleasure (personal, self-centered). Someone who makes you laugh, or makes you feel desirable.
Utility (tradeoff). You're friends because it is useful.
Virtue (character-driven). Enjoy each other's company even if they are / aren't fun or useful.
That is a friendship of virtue.
And in a long enough perspective, it is the only thing that matters in a relationship. Pleasure will come and go, as will utility.
If someone seems boring to you, or a bad fit, it might be that you don’t know how to prompt them, that you haven’t seen them react to the context that brings out their full being. You probably don’t know how much beauty lies hidden in the people around you.
